I met my lovely husband when I had just turned fifteen. We lived in separate towns, we went to separate schools.
But there was no doubt. He was my sweetheart.
We struggled to see each other when we could, we ran up outrageous phone bills. I moved further away and that made it more difficult still. But there was no doubt, he was the one for me. No question, no hesitation.
We were boyfriend and girlfriend throughout high school, and we got married shortly after. Because there was no doubt.
If you guys have seen my husband and me at a con or other event, you know we are pretty much inseparable. We have been there for each other. It’s not all been perfect, it’s not always easy, but the wedding vows held true, in sickness and health, for richer and for poorer. And we have been sick and we have been poor.
But there was no doubt.
When I had a successful salon, and I wanted to quit it to try a very risky creative career, my husband helped me pack up my salon fixtures that same night. No questions asked.
Now, it’s years later, and we are still together. And days like today are as thrilling and romantic as when we were newlyweds. It’s not always rainbows, sometimes it’s downright difficult. But we are in love and we are married, and today was our anniversary.
All we want is for everyone who wants to, to be able to have that as well, with the one they love.
If you have doubts about marriage equality, if you have moral reservations, I ask you this…why would you want to keep that happiness from other Americans? Why does their happiness affect you at all?
Nearly everyone reading this has a friend, neighbor or family member who is lgbtq. Or someone that they simply admire. What possible good does it do the world to actively strive to prevent them from having this simple human right?
What is it in your life that is so fragile that their happiness affects it even slightly?
Many countries and several states allow lgbtq people to marry. All the apocalyptic doomsaying has amounted to nothing, it ruined nothing, it hurt no one. Those arguments are based in fear and they have been proven wrong in every case.
Some say that they oppose it for religious reasons…but can you imagine how you would feel, if that is your defense, if someone imposed their religion on you, legislated their religion into law over you? Is that really how you want to see your religion, as something to be forced upon people, something legislated, something imposed? Or do you want people to come to your church of their own free will, in their own time?
Just give it some thought, please. Many of us have every right the law allows…we should not be callous or thoughtless in taking those same rights from others.